Have you ever been told you need more confidence?

Or to believe in yourself more?

Or berated yourself for not being confident enough?

Was it useful?

So often it’s not.

It’s neither specific, actionable, or measurable.
It can feel like a diagnosis rather than constructive feedback.
It can send us down a rabbit hole of inner turmoil and self-criticism, rather than giving us some useful tools to work with.

When I coach around confidence, and in my own life, it’s not about trying to summon up some magical, all-or-nothing, quality.

What it’s mostly about is…

Learning to notice and quieten our inner critic.
Reframing our relationship with fear.
Connecting with, and stepping into, our own authority.
Some practical communication tips.
Understanding what brings out the best in us, so we can set ourselves up for success.

So, if you’re feeling like you have some work to do around confidence it can be useful to get both curious and specific - when and where do you feel confident? When and where don’t you?

Then review the data, gather the learning and use it to create some experiments, so you can test and learn your way forward, one step at a time.

So much more useful.

Confidence doesn’t simply arrive one day because we’re told we need more of it, but it can grow inside of us as we work out what works for us.

What if it’s not about ‘being more confident’?

And what would be a useful step to take so you can reframe your relationship with it?

Wishing you all a week of being curious about what works for you,